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This book addresses the subjects of:
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Anti-male discrimination
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Advice for men and fathers
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Child Custody and Support
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Divorce, divorce courts, laws, lawyers, and statistics
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Divorce effects on children
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Feminism, and Rebuttal of Radical Feminism.
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Gender discrimination and bias
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Gender roles, and differences
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Men's and Father's rights
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Men's defense
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Men's image and health
The title, captures the essence of this book.
There is a great “to
do” about the alleged problems women encounter by virtue of their gender. The
problems of men, especially fathers, receive very little attention. In the last
several generations of our feminized, lawyered-up society, the position of men
has deteriorated significantly. The male of the species is under increasing
attack legally, politically, economically and culturally.
That famous phrase from George Orwell’s Animal Farm, “All animals are equal,
but some animals are more equal than others” is apropos. To say that gender bias is present
is to state the obvious; the dogs in the street know it. Dual discrimination,
pro-female and anti-male, is pervasive. This bias, a near universal Zeitgeist,
is so institutionalized it is taken for granted. There are few expectations of
women, and many of men. Oversimplified, the cause of men’s sorry situation is a
combination of misplaced chivalry and misandry. This and the metastasizing of
Feminism have severely damaged society.
A large part of this
tome is devoted to domestic relations (divorce) because that is where males and society
are most harmed. Therein lie vast social engineering schemes and prejudices
working to the detriment of traditional men and traditional families. Bad as it
is, divorce is but one facet of a general pattern of discrimination, a double
standard that extends into nearly all areas of law and society, in domestic
relations, crime punishment, employment, and in men’s very image.
Listen to the
experts: Esther Vilar, in her best seller, The Manipulated Man, calls the
American male “the most exploited, the most suppressed, the most manipulated man
on the face of the earth;” Linda Bowles said “It isn’t even close, the most
abused, vilified, and sexually harassed Americans are white, heterosexual
males. I don’t know why they put up with it — and I wish they wouldn’t;”
Blackstone said “Woman is the favorite of the law.”
Luther once compared
humanity to a drunkard who, after falling off his horse on the right, remounts
and falls off again on the left. That’s an excellent analogy to sexism. In the
past, many prejudices favored men over women. Today, that situation is
reversed. In The War Against Fathers, Dr Richard Hise explains that men
have been so preoccupied with work and family that they haven’t noticed the
incremental losses of their liberties and the increasing amounts of disrespect
toward our sex. He compared it to a frog not noticing the slowly increasing
temperature of the water he is in before he is boiled to death.
Paul Craig Roberts
puts it thusly, “The war against men is real. It requires men to exercise care
in choosing an occupation and in choosing a woman. The risk-reward ratios have
deteriorated both for marriage and for working for a corporation. A bad choice
can leave a man wounded, maimed, bereft of property and children, and in prison
on trumped-up charges.”
Many political
agendas and players are involved in this “rape of the male.” Speaking
truth to power, Save The Males
exposes them and their sophistic arguments.
It is time, beyond
time actually, to apply garage logic to these issues, to speak out, especially for the common man – the guy working on
a farm, in a factory, in a garage, driving a truck, or laying bricks
－ men without the time, talent, or
inclination to sit behind desks manipulating facts and statistics favorable to
our cause, as our more glib detractors do.
Save The Males
is a very small candle lit in a very dark night. It makes the case that
restoration of men’s rights is the best route back to a civilized society. The
book is the result of decades of research, divorce counseling and reform
organizational work. The author, Richard Doyle, formed several men’s/fathers’
movement coalitions; he edited and published The Liberator, international
newsmagazine of that movement for over 35 years.
Save The Males
is a defensive action in the battle of the sexes, a warning to anyone who will
listen of the dire consequences of anti-male attitudes. It is not intended to
drag women down to the level of treatment accorded men, but to bring men up to
that accorded women. The purpose is to rescue men, not to denigrate women. The
book explores the realities of life, resurrects the old-fashioned concepts of
right and wrong, and examines their eternal conflict in law and behavior. Law
degrees, black robes or Roman collars aren’t needed to perceive these
realities. In fact, such trappings are often detrimental.
The Appendix lists other books helpful
to men battling for justice in divorce employment, criminal matters, and image
in general.
Save The Male’s
other-side of-the-coin arguments will outrage chivalrous instincts, but such
instincts are largely responsible for society’s problems. This is plain talk;
no sophistry or trendy jargon. It is logic – cold, cruel, inexorable,
undeniable – with all the subtlety of a Panzer division. As Barry Goldwater
said, “I would remind you that extremism in the defense of liberty is no vice.
Let me remind you also that moderation in the pursuit of justice is no virtue.”
Like hitting a beehive with a stick, this book will be offensive to some, but
how else can one deal with offensive subjects? It is not meant to be
light-hearted entertainment. One cannot be humorous about the annual ruin of
thousands of men, children, and families.
The whole question
of men’s rights and of divorce is one that society would rather sweep under the
rug. To most people it is inconvenient, embarrassing, politically incorrect or
confusing. Certain subjects are offensive to many who would prefer not to face
them, but their airing might prevent consequences far worse than ruffled
feelings. The very idea of men’s rights is unpopular, and shocking. The
anti-slavery cause was unpopular and shocking 140 years ago, as were earlier
moral voices crying in the wilderness. Attacking popular misconceptions enrages
elements in all social strata, as Galileo, Darwin, Freud, even Jesus Christ can
attest.
Men are not better
than women or always in the right; but women have the entire legal establishment
oriented to help them, so this book is not overly concerned with women’s
problems, however legitimate, just as the NAACP is not overly concerned with
white people’s problems. Admittedly, there are evil men and good, competent
women, and some traces of discrimination against women may remain. Save The
Males makes the case that that which exists against men is vastly greater.
It is only common
sense that gender justice will benefit women as well as men. Decent women,
though they may read this with one eyebrow raised, do not want sons, brothers,
and loved ones to suffer injustice, or the institution of marriage to
disappear. Children deserve a family — father and mother, an environment free
from prejudice — ethnic and sexual, and a country safe for marriage.
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